I am jumping way ahead right now only because of the situation. I want to express to everyone that a friend of mine died just before Christmas the details are vague as to why she died, but she died and when that happens you have to take a step back and ask yourself "Why". Not the question of how but the question of why her and not someone else, not you, not me but why her. Two beautiful kids both college age one graduated this year back in June. "Why"
I think I said a few days ago that my brother noted that I had stopped crying as a kid when I found out that my grandfather had died. Well I cried yesterday, I had my days back in May and June when I cried out of self pity and how could I put myself in this position, blah blah, but yesterday I "cried" for the right reason, a person I knew, (not a close friend, or girlfriend) but a person I knew DIED. I have experienced death over the years, probably more than most after being in the Marines, I didn't get emotional over any of them. My Father died and I went hunting the same day, my Uncle died and I don't think I blinked, My Grandmother died and I couldn't look at her body in the morgue. But a person who took the time reach out to me when my life was spiraling south, Died. I had to take note. I would have attended her funeral and her reception if I had to walk to get there.
I met her sisters, or probably re-met her sisters, I met her husband, and most importantly I met her kids, she shines through them you can tell that she did it right. she was a force of a mother, she raised her kids to a level of responsibility that most kids these days don't have. One son, One daughter, both looking at the future and not having a mom to call on. I am 42 and my mother is still around so I am having a hard time understanding this. I called my friend the week before she died and left her a voice mail, I asked how she was and wondered why she never responded.....I assumed she was busy.
Take the time to think about your one friend, the one you take for granted. Don't let the voice mail be your last attempt to contacting them, because as I found out in the middle of December your voice mail may go unanswered......
Very sweet tribute. It's very true, we need make sure we don take for granted the people we care about. It's very easy to do, although.
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Sooooooo sad! Your so right!
ReplyDeleteVery true, a good friend died of cancer this month. I'm glad I had the chance to visit with him just days before. Friends and family are important, please let them how you feel. Dion, thank you. Leona
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